The U.S. won World World II. And our military is still in the countries that lost. We lost Vietnam. And all that we left were the children of the dust, destined to be destitute.
It’s the same in relationships. If you withdraw, the best you can leave behind are children of the dust. At worst you will leave nothing behind, other than the knowledge that you were a real flesh and blood dildo, vibrating for her amusement.