I’ve started reading The Charisma Myth. One of the early statements that has stood out is this:
Because what’s in your mind shows up in your body and because people will catch even the briefest microexpression, to be effective, charismatic behaviors must originate in your mind.
This has resonated with some of my recent personal experiments in human interaction, where I basically just fuck with people as subtly as possible.
What I’ve been doing is trying to determine who really enjoys seeing me, and who doesn’t. So I have tried to keep my face as neutral as possible when I see people, which has given me a whole lot of nothing in response. Literally, for most people, if I don’t open them, they’re quiet.
Now, the me of my youth would have assumed they just didn’t want to be bothered. But, older, and wiser me has a plethora of past behavior, and most people that I enjoy seeing truly enjoy seeing me. But, because of my physical and emotional presence, most everyone else is waiting for my emotional state to play off of, and when they don’t get that, they don’t really know what to do.
It seems like this is a big sticking point for all the text monkeys that seem to be spreading disease like through the land, they keep waiting on other people to make a move. If you’re dominant, which you should be as a man, you’ll be waiting a long time. You have to bring the charisma with you, because most people just don’t have it. Especially women, who tend toward responsive desire. They’re waiting for you to bring it to their world.